Day 1 Of My Vacation

So I took this week off from work, I have not taken a vacation in a very long time.  Too damn long to try and remember when I took the last one.  I had plans today…big plans of getting caught up on a few tv shows, as well as vegging out on some XBox for a while.

Guess what I did today…I slept.  I slept a lot.  Apparently my body was tired and wanted a lot more rest than I thought it would want/need.

Lesson learned today, listen to your body, it will not steer you in the wrong direction.  Ok body, I hear you, and I am sorry I have not always listened to you.  I will going forward.

Rule #007, Be Excellent To Each Other

On Monday, as I was leaving for lunch, a student asks me for $0.05.  Now, I don’t usually carry cash, so I gave her my BuzzCard and told her to just swipe it in the vending machine to get what she was going to get if I had the $0.05 to give her.  And just for clarity, a BuzzCard is our on campus ID card, and you can put money on it to use at most places on campus.  But back to the story.

So she has this look on her face of disbelief, and I have a look of confusion on mine.  She then says that she can’t believe I did that.  To which I told her, hey, if I can help when someone needs help, I help.  I’m not sure if she was a grad student or not, but she was a brown skinned sista who was in need.  Now, anyone who really knows me, knows that I believe that we have to look out for each other, because no one else is going to.

So as we are standing there, she proceeds to tell me how beautiful of a person I am for letting her use my BuzzCard to get what she was going to get.  Now, it was something from the vending machine, and it was maybe $1.75, not a big deal at all to me, but I get that the gesture is what she was shocked by.  She says how people just don’t stop and help other people these days, let alone just buy them what it is they were trying to get.  We talked a for a bit, and then went our separate ways.

In life, we all have the power to help or harm people.  Which of those options we choose is completely up to each individual.  I choose to help people when I can, and I hope that my acts of kindness will influence others to do the same.  To me, those acts of kindness and our ability to help people are two of the most important reasons why we are here on this rock floating in space.

Rule #005, In All That You Do, Let There Be Balance

It’s no secret that I am an audiophile.  I love good music that has great sound.  Now, I at times bash a lot of the music that is played on the radio, and yes, I think most of it is garbage, however, there is some good stuff out there.  The main issue that I have is there is a lack of balance in the music, and other forms of media that we, as people consume.

I have always lived, no, I have always tried to live my life by some very simple rules.  I have done a pretty decent job in not breaking my rules.  As time goes on, I’ll get more of my rules written for people to read.  As I sit here about to leave work, I am looking at a few videos on Youtube, and I am listening to some less than conscious music.  Now, those who do not know me very well would call me a hypocrite for listening to this music.  And that is rule #005 comes in;

Rule #005 – In All That You Do, Let There Be Balance

Yes, I think that you need to listen to music that has a message and meaning behind it.  Music that tells the story of the struggles of people.  Music that gets a message across to the masses.  Music that is meant to touch your soul and cause you to have a spiritual experience.  However, there is also some music that is mean for no other reason than to cause you to move your body.  Music that is meant for the club.  Music that is meant blow out of a pair of 15” sub woofers in the trunk of your 1985 Chevy Caprice.  Music that is mean to have bass so low that you can feel it bouncing on the inside of your chest.

All of it is good music to someone.  But, let’s please get back to a time when there was balance.  After you have dinner, you have desert.  Sometimes to follow up a great novel, you may read a trashy romance novella.  However you bring balance to the force, do that and keep your balance.  Do not allow music, movies, tv, books, or whatever your choice of entertainment is cause you to lose balance.  Balance is what keeps us focused and centered.

Rule #005 – In All That You Do, Let There Be Balance

Rule #004, Know Your Purpose In Life

I’ve always been the type of person that likes to help people.  I don’t know why, but anytime someone has been in need, and I was able to help, there I was.  Well, after some thought, and also looking at the jobs that I have had in my adult life, the answer was starring me in the face.  My role is that of support.

I’ve never been a person who cared for the spotlight.  I’ve always operated behind the scens making sure that things happened with no one knowing if anything went wrong behind the scenes.  For some strange reason, that is just what I like to do.  I look back at school, both high school and college, organizations I have been involved in, and the pattern has always been there.  I’m always drawn to a role that is needed, but goes unnoticed by most.  I don’t know what that says about me as a person, but one thing I can say is that the things I get involved in will get 110% of my effort.

So if you see me slipping backstage, know that I’m going to fix something so that what you are currently enjoying, will continue to be enjoyable.  No, I’m not looking to be in the spotlight, I just want to know that things worked out as they should have.  That is my reward…..well, that and whatever compensation has been negotiated for my services.

Rule #003, Get To Know The People Around You

So recently, someone who I have not seen since high school came back into my life.  We ran in different circles back then, so it’s no big surprise that it has been this long since we last spoke.  However, it has been good to be reunited with this person.  The process of getting to know someone you used to know is kind of interesting.

I stumbled upon her blog on Tumblr, and she made it a point to tell me to read it.  So I have been doing just that.  As I read it, I am seeing how interesting this person is.  There are some funny things there to discover, and it feels like reading the chapter’s in a person’s life story.  Which, I guess that is exactly what I am doing.  Reading her blog, also reminds me of how much fun it is to write.  I need to do more writing.  Not just on my own blog, but I’ve always wanted to write a book.  I need to get started on that as well.

The moral of the story is exactly what the title of this post is.  Get to know the people around you, I mean really get to know them.  You never know what a wealth of information people have, and you also get to see a side of them that not many people may know about.

Rule #001 – To Thine Own Self Be True

This rule is my personal favorite, and I think the most important.  That is why it is 1st. 

To Thine Own Self Be True

You may ask yourself, what is so important about this statement.  Well, think about it….in today’s society, there are too many people trying to be someone they are not, to impress someone who  may or may not be worth impressing.  Those who are worth impressing, will never require you to impress them.  They will accept you as you are, faults and all.

If the person you are, is a person trying to impress someone, stop it.  They are not worth impressing, and you will end up being unhappy since you will always work to impress them.  Just be yourself, and if they don’t like it, they can go fuck themselves.